Dear blogger friends,
Please do not choke me… But, this is another one about HER. Every day lately is like spinning a wheel, you never know how SHE or I will react. One day fine, the next, not so fine.
I suppose I'm hoping that by baring it all on these pages, it will somehow expose the "dirty secret" of the hell I'm putting myself through so I can come to terms with how I've been acting.
PS: Please excuse the outbursts of foul language.
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4:15 pm - Day One events end
No cell phone reception until 5:00 while driving
5:15 - First call to HER cell phone, as previously
discussed, arranged and agreed to by HER
to talk about Day One outcome - No answer
5:30 - Pick up my son, he wants to call HER
HER cell phone is off (which to me means she saw
that I called at 5:15. Didn’t call me back, want to
talk to me, or give a shit about Day One outcome
- hence phone off)
5:45 – Phone off
7:30 – She answers, “Well? How did it go?”
With my son standing there, I could not talk about it, my head was
splitting open from pain, my heart doing likewise over
her lack of caring/concern. HER, “I’ll call you back later.”
7:31 – 8:29 - Me foolishly thinking she will actually call me back
and/or stop by the house to comfort me after “Day One”
(these thoughts pretty much were applied throughout the
whole day, not just specified time frame)
8:30 - my son goes to bed, my Xanex has wore off
No call
Panic attack over day’s events setting in
9:45 – No answer, I leave panicked message to please call me back
10:00 – Phone off
10:01 - Nearly hysterical
10:05 – Phone call to house where SHE is staying – no answer
10:10 – (See previous entry, repeat)
10:15 – My phone rings, HER screaming at me that I’m stalking HER
Officially hysterical, now also dealing with the screaming and stalking comment
10:17 – She hangs up on me
1:00 - 4:30 am – Me waking up repeatedly, resuming panicked feelings
5:15 – Calling cell phone (SHE answers on her way to work)
I apologize for previous night’s hysterical outburst
Go on to tell HER about Day One outcome
genuine concern and shock over magnitude of Day One events
Me thinking, “NO SHIT! Really, I hadn’t realized it was such
a bad day.”
10:00 – HER calling me at work, going off about Day One events, feeling a bit of what it was like to be in my shoes.
10:07 - HER, “I’ll call you back.”
Presently – Me foolishly thinking/hoping SHE will actually call me back
and/or stop by the house to comfort me today to make up for yesterday
...and I'd still be happy if she did actually show up or call.
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Really, what the FUCK is wrong with me? After the stress of my day, why did I do this to myself? I see a repeated pattern here – ME! ME! ME! I have no one else to blame, but ME! Why do I think a magical moment from her on the phone is going to heal my every sorrow or save my soul? What she thought of as stalking was me desperately trying to reach out for someone who would have normally comforted me in this time of great stress.
Maybe I should just get my phone disconnected, break my dialing fingers or have my mind erased. Feel free to ridicule me in the comments, I deserve it.
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11 comments:
You shouldn't be so hard on yourself. YOu were with her for 8 years. It's going to take more then just a few weeks to feel better. We have all been in relationships that aren't healthy for us, but we LOVE them so much. Hang in there. Go do something fun tonight. Take tomorrow off and do something that you like. Go see a movie, go buy something for yourself. Treat yourself to something nice. YOu deserve it.
Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm not judging you. Everyone is different and has their own time frame for dealing with things.
My suggestion would be to go out and buy The Sims 2 (see my post today). It is very therapeutic. You can create a sim that looks like you and HER and then you can do whatever you like with her since you control the game.
This is probably not "healthy" advice, but it sure is fun.
Hang in there! I'm rooting for you. How is your son handling all of this?
I have done what akh has suggested.
Many hours of mindless games. yes it helps. LOL
getting back involved in sons activities has also helped distract my thoughts about HER.
Take care today
You know, sometimes we just are "done" yet. Even though you know you should leave it alone, logically, emotionally you're not in that place. Just be good to you and your son. Thinking of you.
Sweetie, I agree with everyone else. Do NOT be hard on yourself. Eight years is a long to erase in a few weeks. Mine lasted 8 years too but the sucky part was living with her day after day after the breakup while going through those feelings.
Hang out with friends, do something distracting. It will require conscious effort but it's a start.
Hang in there!
{{{Sublime}}}
I can't even begin to imagine what it must feel like for you. Lots of good words of advice for you from the other commentors. Just giving you a hug and hope that tomorrow's a better day for you. {{{{{ }}}}}
Hey Sublime...
Hope you are able to just be this weekend!
STB
((choking you then hugging you))
I hope things are better today, Sublime.
Go do something wonderful with your son.
(((Sublime)))
Checking in,
Hope you are having a good day!
Sublime, you are being way too hard on yourself. It takes a long, long time to get over someone, especially a relationship of 8 years. You're going through a divorce, you know?
You can do this.
Just stopping by on Sunday evening to let you know I was thinking of you, and hope that your weekend went okay.
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